Who Do You Admire & Respect?

It says a lot about what’s important to you

Jen Wilking


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To be mature you have to realize what you value most. It is extraordinary to discover that comparatively few people reach this level of maturity. They seem never to have paused to consider what has value for them.​

They spend great effort and sometimes make great sacrifices for values that, fundamentally, meet no real needs of their own. Perhaps they have imbibed the values of their particular profession or job, of their community or their neighbors, of their parents or family.

Not to arrive at a clear understanding of one’s own values is a tragic waste. You have missed the whole point of what life is for.

- Eleanor Roosevelt
You Learn by Living: Eleven Keys for a More Fulfilling Life

This feels a little harsh, but it resonates with my desire to identify and align with what matters most to me.

And also, because I have spent so much effort and made sacrifices for values that someone else set for me.

Question everything.

I teach a workshop called Life Pruning. It’s full of writing prompts to help you identify what matters most to you. It’s reflective, illuminating, and much more effective than circling words on a values sheet.

If you’re interested, here’s a little homework.

Make a list of people you admire and respect. Try to come up with at least 4 or 5 people.


Go back and add what you love about how they are in the world. For each one, write about what they’ve said, done, or written that inspires you.


What do you notice about the people on your list? What do they have in common?


Here’s the thing. You’re drawn to these people for a reason. You connect with them. You get them. You like the way they show up.

It says a lot about what’s important to you. You share their values. What you care about is reflected in their way of being.

If you look closely, you’ll see how you’re already living (and longing for more of) the things you admire most in others.

If you feel like sharing, I’d love to hear about your experience.

✂️🌱📝 Interested in more life pruning? Download this checklist and clear out things you don’t want or need, little by little. Choose the suggestions that call to you, and add your own ideas to the list. It’s amazing how good it can feel to create space. Have fun with it!



Jen Wilking

Yoga & meditation teacher, physical therapist | Feel at home in your body, calm in your mind, & inspired to make an impact | https://jenwilking.com/